The Art of Texting VS Talking

There's something quite interesting that I realised recently and I have to ask every gay men out there.

Hell, I want to ask even the straights: Why is that when we text someone, we can flirt like there's no tomorrow but when we call, we are so god damn polite to the other person - well, most of the time.

Take Grindr for example, after the routine "how are yous?" and "where are you from", things always turns to the perverted side. Things turn from normal texting into sexting. Every thing you said is a sexual innuendo. From asking are you hard at work, which normally means "is work tough today?" or "are you working yourself to the ground: but turns into "are you literally hard at work".

Things always become hard when we sext. Sexting is the new phone sex.

So I had this guy that I was talking to. He has the rightest kind of body with a perfect face. Like those of models but not like plastic Barbie's Ken doll. The first few sessions of texting was perfectly normal. Asking all sort of normal stuff from work to food and travel. Slowly it turns into sexting.

When asked at night, "what are you doing", it is always get back the same answer. An answer along the lines of "I am lying in bed naked and chatting with you on Grindr. PS: I am fucking horny too."
That makes all the sexting and teasing start. All about massages, "coming" over to my place or how nice the sheets feel on your skin as you talk to me and how eating a meal becomes swallowing.

That's all fun and games. Don't get me wrong. I love sexting. Heck I sext all cute guys. I even intentionally make sexual innuendos.

Then comes the time of the phone call. That one night when you are sexting for a while and he ask to call or you did. You engage on the call but when it goes through, everything becomes all nice and pleasant. Conversation goes back to the basics like food, travel or what you have been doing.

Why is it that when we already past all the pleasantries before in texting, we revert back to ground zero when the call comes.

I admit I am like that too. Maybe it's because there is no emotion sensed when texting. You can say whatever you want and everything will sound sexy but when you call and say it aloud, everything seems so fucking stupid or less sexy than you thought it would be.

Phone sex has become almost non-existent!

To be honest I love calling and talking to a guy more than texting but not everyone prefers the call, now that Grindr is the app of the century for the gays out there. Hence sexting is my calling now.

So what do you do? Do you have the same problem or are you the perfect slut that can call without reverting back to pleasantries? (And slut is a compliment here)

So what do you think? Maybe some of you out there has the answer to this fucking weird question.


Love you fags and hags out there. Have a jolly holiday!
Yours Queerly xoxo